So my girl A.J. finally married her partner of 10 years and father of her six children last weekend. France is an easy trip from Sweden, but I was hosting American family members at the time and wouldn’t have been able to attend anyway. 😛
But rather than be happy for two of their strongest allies, it seems some members of the American LGBTQ community have been slagging Brangelina off for abandoning their famous vow NOT to get married until everyone in the U.S. had the same opportunity. What a bunch of ingrates.
The fact of the matter is, they kept their promise. There are now 19 U.S. states that allow same-sex couples to marry, and a good number of them (including California and New York) do not have a residency requirement for getting a marriage license. This means that any American couple with the means to travel to one of these states can get married.
Will that marriage be recognized by all the other states? At this point, no. But that doesn’t change the fact that it is a real, legal marriage on multiple levels. And it’s only a matter of time before it’s recognized just like every other marriage in the U.S.
So I say congratulations to the happy couple for holding out as long as they did, and for doing what they feel is best for their family. As someone who was together with my partner for 10 years before we tied the knot, I know what a big, frigging deal it is, and how it changes the way you see yourselves, and how society sees you as a couple.